(Note: I’ve only been on the receiving end of handjobs. This post is just explaining what feels good for me, as a loosely circumcised restoring man. If anyone wants to add their input, whether you’re a giver, receiver, or both, feel free to do so.)
Many people think that giving a handjob is the same whether the penis is circumcised or not. Others think the two experiences are completely different. The reason for the discrepancy is probably due to the fact that there are varying degrees of circumcision, which most people don’t realize.
The two main types of circumcision are loose and tight. A loose circumcision removes less skin than a tight circumcison. With a loose circumcision, the skin on the penis can still be moved around, much like the foreskin of an uncircumcised penis. There are varying degrees; sometimes the skin can move all the way over the head, sometimes it can only move partially over it.
With a tight circumcision, more skin is removed, to the point that the remaining skin has little-to-no wiggle room. It can barely be moved at all, let alone over the head. I wrote a more deatiled explanation of both types here further explaining the differences between the two, and how both (especially tight) are missing the benefits of a fully intact foreskin. This guide mainly explains how the different variations need to be stimulated differently.
I’ll start with the intact (uncircumcised) penis. The foreskin is intended to glide back and forth over the penile shaft and head, and that’s exactly what you should make it do. Just glide the skin back and forth with your hand, it’s really quite easy, and it won’t hurt the penis*. The head of an intact penis is very sexually sensitive, so it’s important that you’re definitely gliding the skin over it, and the stretching of pulling the skin as you glide it down the shaft is very pleasurable too.
*In some cases, the foreskin is too “tight” and won’t pull back all the way. If that’s the case, just move the skin as far as you can. If you’re unsure as to whether or not you’ll hurt your partner, just ask them. Communication is important with any sexual experience.
The foreskin is quite a sexually sensitive part, and occasionally paying attention to just it alone may be very pleasurable for your partner. As a form of foreplay, try just rubbing the foreskin together, or kneading parts of it with your finger. Particularly, the most sensitive parts of the foreskin tend to be the frenulum (the bridge of skin on the underside, connecting the foreskin to the head) and the frenular delta (the spot where they meet). You could also try just slowly stroking your fingers from the base of the penis’ underside, and gently moving up to the foreskin. Or grip the penis from the head, and slowly slide your grip down over the shaft. Foreskin responds very well to light, gentle sensations like these. If you’re not worried about pulling the skin too far, another trick is to occasionally pull the skin down slightly taut (but not TOO taut). Foreskin also reacts well to stretching motions like this.
Now, for the loosely circumcised penis. As I said before, these penises still have mobile skin, so no lube is required. However, they are typically less mobile than a foreskin. With a loosely cut penis, your concern shouldn’t be pulling back too far: rather, make sure you’re not pulling it over the head too far. While it is ideal to move skin over the head, it may simply be uncomfortable, painful, or impossible to do so in some cases. Try and gauge how easily the skin moves over the head. If it goes up nice and smoothly, you should be fine, but if it feels like there’s some resistance, ask your partner if it hurts them. I can’t emphasize this enough: communication during sex isn’t something awkward. It’s something that’s good and important.
Aside from that, stimulating a loosely circumcised penis is much like stimulating one with a foreskin. The only other big difference is that it simply won’t be as sensitive. The head and the foreskin remnant (if any) will be dried out from constant exposure, and thus won’t react as strongly, especially to light touches. This doesn’t mean foreplay is out of the question, it just might not have as much of an effect.
Then, the tightly circumcised penis. With no skin to glide back and forth, you technique is going to be quite different, and more friction-y. In some cases, your partner may prefer lube (or just spit), as the friction otherwise may be too much. Others may still be fine without lube, so long as you’re not painfully rough with it. Either way, you’re still going to be jerking your hand up and down along his shaft and head, there’s just little-to-no gliding skin. With lube, you’ll want to grip somewhat tightly, as if your hand was a vagina or anus. Without lube, you’ll need to grip a little lighter so you don’t hurt them. You may want to pay special attention to the corona (the ridge of the head). When there is no foreskin of frenulum remnant (which is often the case for the tightly circumcised), the corona is often the most sensitive remaining part of the penis. So, occasionally you’ll want to focus your jerking around the corona. Don’t do this the whole time, though: the corona can get oversensitive very easily if too much stimulation is focused directly on it.
A tightly circumcised follower of mine, sharewhatsgood, had this to say:
“I’m tightly cut, and I prefer slow, gentle, up-and-down or circular massaging of the shaft with the fingers, or small, fast up-and-down tugs with a loose circular grip. It’s also nice to do a normal fist-handed HJ with only lube on the head so that I get the massaging of the shaft (no hand-on-skin sliding, just tugging the skin), and good sliding stimulation of the head. There’s really no way to comfortably stimulate the head with a hand without lube or precum. Just my personal preference, not sure how this would work for other guys.”
I’ll finish this with just some general handjob pointers, that apply for any type of penis:
-This might just be me, but for some reason they feel better for me when the penis is pointed upwards (as opposed to pointing more towards my stomach)
-A general trick you can do is ocassionally have your pinky finger grip tighter than the rest of your fingers. Having that little bit of varying pressure moving up and down feels good along the shaft.
-Some guys love ball stimulation. Others hate it. If you decide to try it, make sure you’re being somewhat gentle. You know how sensitive testicles are.
-This is a really important one. When your partner begins to orgasm, don’t stop stimulating. Keeping going. I’ve heard of girls who, for some reason, just stop jerking the second they see semen. Don’t do this! The most pleasurable stimulation tends to be during the orgasm. If you just stop then, it kind of stunts the orgasm a bit, so keep going until every bit of semen is out (though you may want to slow down towards the very end of the orgasm).
-On the subject of orgasming, try not to switch hands in the middle of one. There’s nothing wrong with your hands getting tired and having to switch back and forth, but it’s best to do so before the orgasm. Switching your hands during it, even if you do it quickly, can be a bit of an orgasm-kill.
-Once they get close to orgasming, don’t change your technique or speed too much (other than maybe to go just slightly faster). It’s great to be creative and switch things up earlier in the session, but once he’s on the verge of orgasm, it’s best to just stick with what you’re doing.
-If at any point your partner says/implies that the stimulation is “too much,” they’re probably referring to the head. Even in circumcised penises, the head can get oversensitive sometimes, so if he seems to be overwhelmed, just stick to the shaft for a little bit.
And there you have it. If you want me to elaborate on anything, feel free to ask.