It's funny how a guy can love the girliest woman around and still be considered straight, but if he watches a show full of women like that, he's considered gay.

It’s funny how a guy loving any woman who isn’t considered super girly is considered “sort of gay”, too.

That being said, it is definitely gross that liking “women’s” shows is “gay”, unless you’re watching it to dehumanize the women in it.

You listed that it's wrong to see paraphilia as sexual orientation and I agree with that, but when I say that, others say that I am invalidating their identity. Are there any facts or points I can respond with to support my opinion without discriminating against sexualities (as these people say I am doing by saying paraphilia isn't orientation)?

A paraphilia is a sexual desire for a certain situation (age, object, roleplay, etc). It is a psychosexual disorder.

A sexual orientation is sexual interest in a gender or more, or lackthereof.

You can identify with your paraphilia, but it is not a sexual orientation. And quite frankly, if people want to shit on LGBT history and struggle like that, they’re not worth talking to. A stupid ass preference for a specific instance is not in any way the fucking same as only being able to be with certain genders, or not at all. Also, if they want to piss their pants about ~their identity~ over a god damned sex disorder that most likely is harmful and based in fucking rape and social disability (since the only assholes doing this are zoophiles and pedophiles) don’t even bother with them really.

You’re not invalidating anyone.

It wasn't an "I didn't really mind Molestia" it was more "Since I didn't actually feel triggered I didn't feel it was my right to say how people felt on the matter" make no mistake I actually thought that blog was crude and disgusting and I never followed it it just hadn't been on my radar until the DWM stuff and when it was it got even worse so I spoke against it but my personal stance had until then been: "well it's awful and stupid but let me not speak on behalf of people I don't know"

That wasn’t very clear in what I read, but I see what you mean now.

However I would like to say, there’s giving room for the experienced to speak, and then there’s just being silent. When you know something is wrong, don’t hesitate to point it out. Speaking on someone’s behalf isn’t what’s wrong - it’s speaking OVER people that is wrong. Speaking on someone’s behalf is standing up for them.

Think of it this way - if someone was badmouthing someone you knew, maybe not personally but someone you knew would be hurt by these words, would you just stand there and let that person continue saying those awful things? Or would you stand up for that person?

what does the decriminalization of sex work even mean

It means removing sex work as a crime.

Often, when it comes to things society looks down upon and has a lot of intersections with bigotry, decriminalization is a better option to legalization. Drugs and sex work are the best examples of this.

Legalization would mean making it a part of the job sector, which means government involvement with how it would be run. This often creates problems because these issues are so heavily laden with bigotry.

When is telling someone to take initiative not "victim blaming"?

Scare quotes makes you sound like you care a whole lot about assault and totally aren’t in the mindset that rape is caused by a victim’s actions rather than a rapist’s.

Same goes for “take initiative”.

Am I the only person who feels that the emo subculture commodifies mental health problems a bit? Not the "help raise awareness" kind of marketing, but rather making it into a fashion statement. Maybe I'm paranoid.

You’re in agreeance with most new and/or teenage users of deviantART. Not to insult you, it’s just a common starting point for a lot of people. That includes me.

In reality, when I really thought about it, my belief came more from what OTHER people said about emos, rather than my experience with emos themselves. When I went back over what I had seen for myself, I found that a lot of emos were also mentally disabled. It makes sense - we tend to gravitate towards subcultures, especially since they signify embracing and expressing individuality. And those who weren’t? Weren’t really doing anything harmful.

Wearing dark makeup and clothes and writing emotional poems isn’t really what I would call commodifying mental health issues. Expressing negativity doesn’t belong to any one group, so I don’t call it ableist when emos put a lot of effort into doing that. Actually, I think we all could learn from it because I think negative emotions get squashed and shoved aside way too much instead of addressed and relieved.

I do understand, though, the sentiment of romanticizing mental disability, though. Or rather, common aspects of it - such as feelings of great loss or loneliness. That’s honestly a complicated topic for me that I can’t exactly formulate a coherent opinion on. On one hand, I feel a lot of people accuse “romanticization” in order to discourage expression of mental health issues or just general negative feelings. On the other, I do see abled people making a lot of… I don’t know if I’d say “romanticized” interpretations, but definitely problematic ones, of disability and negative feelings and situations in general, such as how we’re all cute, sensitive, low self esteem girls with amazing artistic or mathematic ability or some shit who need an abled prince charming to rescue us from ourselves.

Okay then cats are joyful so never mind. Then why do you hate happy upbeat people who are happy with their lives and want to spread that happiness. Would you rather them have mental issues and be miserable all the time?

1. I never said I hate “happy upbeat people who are happy with their lives and want to spread that happiness”

2. Don’t say “mental issues” like it’s a defect.

3. You can have “mental issues” and be happy.

4. You’re assuming in order to be content with your life you must fart rainbows 24/7.

Hi, Dame, I really need some advice right now... I've been cutting since I was in 7 grade or so, and I decided to stop last November. Recently I felt the urge to cut again, due to my mom threatening to take her own life. I haven't cut, yet, but I'm scared that I might.

My therapist told me that a key thing to dealing with self harm is to address what you feel when you want to do it and why you feel that way. You have to figure that out and see what you can do to healthily deal with those feelings. It’s not reasonable to ask someone to stop hurting themselves without offering them alternatives to addressing their feelings or at least something else they can compulsively do, because otherwise you’ll leave them in an anxious, unsettled, miserable state, unable to find a way to express their feelings or feel in control of their situation.

I think you would get along with the dementors from harry potter since just like them you enjoy misery and despise anything that is joyful about life.

I feel a bit sad, can I have a hug?